Put Your Baggage Down!

For some time now I have been contemplating how connected healing is to willingness to forgive the source of abuses and painful memories.  The more that I think about their connection, the more that I believe that healing is actually contingent on forgiveness.  If I had not come to a place where I could conceive forgiving the ones responsible for the pain and painful memories – I don’t believe that my heart would have been truly in a place where it could be healed completely.

I have talked with my husband Tim many times about the journey of healing that God is walking with me.  I have said so many times that I wish I could identify steps for people to begin taking so that they too can be on the road to healing instead of stuck in the past – stuck in the pain.  But I couldn’t really identify exactly how or when I began this journey.   I just realized one day that I was walking this road named Forgiveness and that the longer I chose to stay on this same road, the easier the walking became.

Tim’s message this morning was really awesome and was based on the text Philippians 3:10-13.  “I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead.  Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”  (Emphasis mine)

Tim also used the text Matthew 6:33 ”But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

As he was delivering the message, realization began to flood into my mind and at last I understood how and when my journey started.  When I began to focus more on knowing and pleasing God (straining toward what is ahead) I began to forget what was behind me.  When I began to care more about what I did with God in my life and what God wanted to do with my life – I stopped looking backwards and focusing on the pain that was inflicted on me, on the old wounds that still often festered and infected every part of my life.

Please don’t misunderstand me here.  My memory wasn’t wiped clean.  I didn’t suddenly have a case of amnesia that allowed me to forget all of the bad times in my life.  It was more like a choice that I made, with God’s help, to move the magnifying glass from the dark times over to the good things in my life.  Instead of dwelling in the dark memories I began walking toward new memories – toward what was ahead.

Tim said this morning “The spiritually hungry aren’t hung up in the past; they are anticipating what God has for them now and to come!”  Bingo.  I got hungrier than I have ever been in my life – I was desperate.  I started looking at God instead of looking backwards and suddenly the past began to grow dimmer and dimmer.

He also pointed out that it is vitally important to forget our past identities and move forward.  This particularly struck me…  That would mean that we also have to forget the past identities of those who have abused us or hurt us and move forward.  That is powerful.

If I can’t forgive the abuse and hurts of the past, I cannot move forward.

If I am not constantly straining toward what is ahead by moving forward in Christ, I am bound to look backwards.

We all have baggage in our lives from one thing or another.  Whether yours is/was abuse, financial distress or whatever your baggage may be, God is saying to stop looking at circumstances, stop looking at the past and look at Him, the One who is able to do immeasurably more than we can ask or imagine.  He is inviting you to walk closely with Him looking forward and never backward.

So put your baggage down
there is rest and healing in this place – in Christ.

Rest for the weary

Don’t spend another moment looking into the past and dwelling on the pain that lives there.  Allow God to come to you and flood your life with love and peace and joy.

Thanks for the message honey, once again it got me thinking about how to do things better/differently; it got me thinking about straining for what is ahead and forgetting what is behind.

I have a song floating through my head this afternoon.  I don’t think that it will ever cease to be true and that is okay.  “He’s still working on me, to make me what I ought to be.  It took Him a week to make the moon and the stars, the sun and the earth and Jupiter and Mars.  How loving and patient He must be…  He’s still working on me.”  43 years and counting…

I would love to hear your thoughts…  Something that you have to say might help me or someone else on their walk to healing, please leave a comment below if you are comfortable in doing so…  If you would like to contact me directly/privately, you may do so by emailing me at krislukings [at] gmail [dot] com or through Facebook using the link to the right.  Any personal messages that I receive will be kept in the strictest of confidence.


3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Bongo
    Jan 07, 2011 @ 02:43:48

    I absolutely loved this post…but I must say it’s not that easy at all…..I have no problem with forgiveness..that’s the easy part for me..I have no problem forgiving and moving forward during the daylight…but as I say my prayers and lay my head down at night..and know I have no control over my thoughts…I wander in the past..I am a Christian and believe Jesus is right there with me .. but I know he will not take anything away…(he never said he would)and he is true to his word…because in the night when my body and soul surrender the demons (the past) control my world…..so please know I believe in healing..I believe in putting your baggage down….but I don’t believe in expectations being set too high for myself or others…..and it’s a very very long and painful process…..much love …As always……XOXOXO



    • Kris Lukings
      Jan 07, 2011 @ 22:33:35

      Thank you for your comment. I agree with you that it isn’t easy-certainly not easy, but possible! I also agree with you that night time is hardest. I spent years upon years not being able to sleep hardly at all. As soon as the house is quiet the movies from the past would start. They replayed in such vivid colour and more detail than I ever remember in the daylight. It was like my own personal nightmare played out for me again and again. It seemed that every inch of ground that I gained would be lost come night. In the daylight I could take all of my thoughts captive, but once I gave in to sleep I couldn’t control the thoughts – and so the dreams that played out. Until I began praying every night to the One who could keep the thoughts captive in my dreams – to the One who promised to be with me always, even in my sleep. The nightmares ceased… Now and again they start to come back – I return to praying diligently and they stop again.

      The scars that come from any abuse run so deep. Honestly, I cannot imagine the scars that exist from childhood abuse, they run deeper still I am sure. But I do believe that God is completely able to heal every scar. Healing, like forgiveness, is definitely a process. It takes time to let God do the work to bring us to healing. We are all different in how we heal, both in the method that works best for us and the time that it takes.

      As Christians, we are the temple of the Holy Spirit. Even when our body & spirit are at rest, it doesn’t mean that the Holy Spirit within us is at rest. Jesus said that He would be with us always – not just until we go to sleep. He also told us that ALL things are possible through Him.

      Don’t surrender. Keep praying and ask God to keep guard over your mind while you go to sleep. satan has no rights to a child of God – put him on notice. Again, not trying to say that this is instantaneous – just saying that nothing will convince me that healing is not possible. Keep praying, keep believing – turn the battle over to God.

      I know that you believe in healing – we are both on the road to healing along with so many other people. Each of the people on this road are in different places going different paces. We must keep moving forward – keeping our eyes focused on Him and Him alone.

      Praying for you, much love to you.



  2. Kim Vandersluis
    Jan 04, 2011 @ 21:58:17

    Kris, From the moment I met you, I knew there was a purpose for me meeting You and how similar we are…thanks for the messages, hoping they will be a reality …for both of us…Kim



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